The Varelas

Introvert/Extrovert
Something I've known about myself for a long time but only recently was able to put into words is the fact that I need to be alone to re-energize. I guess that means I'm an introvert, but I don't know if I understood all of the implications of that word until recently, when some people we know were having a rough time and had to live with us for a while. I'm accustomed to getting home from work around 5:30 and having at least an hour--often more--to myself to veg, read, watch TV, clean, and start thinking about what to make for dinner before Jon gets home. I didn't realize how much I need that, and it took me a little while with these people living with us to realize why I was so down/depressed and tired--no alone time meant no rejuvenation!

Jon is an extrovert and almost always would rather spend time around other people, not alone. I think he tries to understand me in this area, but it must be hard for him since he really can't relate. Thankfully, being with Jon is just the same for me energy-wise as being by myself. I guess that's because I don't feel like I have to constantly make an effort to fill up silences or entertain him or even to put on a happy face if I'm not happy. Thank goodness for my husband.